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Posted on January 08, 2012 by Dr. Deah

Every January, for the past 3 years I have posted this video on my Facebook page.  Each year I hope it will be obsolete.  Each year I DREAM it will be my last and I will get flooded with emails, texts (and now tweets ) begging me to,
“Drop it already Dr. Deah that’s old news!!!  It doesn’t happen anymore. Move on to another cause.”
With Healthy Weight Week around the bend on January  15th and little change to be noticed, I find myself in the position to once again post this classic video from the Tri Delta folks. I am not saying that this year has been void of remarkable strides in the size acceptance and HAES (sm) communities.  Thanks to the hard work of the following people and organizations:  NAAFA, About FaceThe Body Positive, ASDAH, NORMAL, Fierce Freethinking Fatties, Linda Bacon, Paul Campos, Darryl Roberts, Jon Robinson, Jay Solomon, Judy Matz, Ellen Frankel, Ragen Chastain, Golda Poretsky, Marilyn Wann, Kim Brittingham, Frances Berg, Joanne Ikeda,  
(ooops, they are playing the, "Get her off the stage before she starts thanking everyone in the academy by name music")
  fabulous inroads were made into the most ossified institutions including:  media, fashion, health and big pharm.    But as the recent ad campaign in Georgia  illustrates, we still have a long way to go. What is great about this Tri Delta video, is how it reminds us that we don’t need to be visible or esteemed enough to infiltrate the news, magazines, or  halls of congress to make a difference.  Any activist knows that changing other people’s minds is difficult and most of the times impossible.  As Ragen Chastain of Dances with Fat says,
“I can explain it to you but I can’t make you understand.”
Activists also know there are changes we can make on our own that may cause a ripple effect and eventually a wave, and ultimately a CONSTRUCTIVE tsunami of attitudinal adjustment in this society. In the spirit of throwing that first pebble in the water, I ask you to please take a moment and watch this video.  Even if you’ve seen it before, consider it a booster shot and go into the New Year loving your body, nurturing your body, and not taking crap from nobody about your body. And maybe in January, 2013 I won’t have to post this again? I can dream can’t I? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKPaxD61lwo  Til Next Time, Dr. Deah

About Dr. Deah

Dr. Deah Schwartz, clinician, educator, and author specializes in Expressive Arts Therapies, Eating Disorders, and Body Image. Deah is the author of Dr. Deah's Calmanac: Your Interactive Monthly Guide for Cultivating a Positive Body Image and co-author of the NAAFA award winning Off-Broadway Play, Leftovers, and its companion DVD/Workbook Set. An outspoken “New Yawker,” Dr. Deah believes that it is everyone’s responsibility to point out and eliminate size discrimination even when it means battling the mainstream media, and even more challenging...family members! To find out more about Dr. Deah’s work or to book a session visit her website at www.drdeah.com

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  1. Dear Dr. Deah,
    Thank you so much for the encouragement that I despirately need. I had never seen the Tri Delta video before; and found it extremely informative. I did not know that 54% of women would rather be run over by a truck than be fat, and (how they must wince when they see me), and that only 98% of women in America look like models. You see, where I live, most people are as thin as the models that are top models. Mind you, their bone structure is more like child size also, which I had the occassion to point out to one of them, who used the excuse that her hands were smaller than normal anyway. I tried to explain to her that my relatives of her DNA background love to go shopping for clothes in this country because they cannot get the right size where they live because they are so small. I think she was shocked that her hand was half the size of mine, when I showed her the difference. She had no idea. I said, we cannot compare. She is also the one that was so happy two weeks ago because she got violently ill and could not eat; and lost all her excess weight that she was complaining about which she could not lose; probably it was about 2 lbs (My husband said, So now you can eat more to make up for it.) Thin is the country ideal here; and the government and money makers, and every powerful institution is all in on it. That is why you have to show this video again and again and more need to be made, but will they? I am sick, and I do have medical problems that contribute to my size; and people know it by looking at me – but somehow, they also hate to see it (just as I used to after I lost 60 lbs. one time), – so it does do damage to my ego, so the vicious circle continues. I just want to know I am sick and be treated with sympathy and help like an other disease victim would be. Not the opposite, which is hate. Thank you once again for helping me to see what a serious problem this is mostly for the little people, and as I sit in bed writing this because of a bad flu, I can have a better idea about what to say when the FAT conversations start up. We can always change the subject. But how do we stop people from being their rude ignorant selves? I have not mastered that art yet. I guess I can return evil for evil to no one, but heap firey coals on the heads of those types by showing love to them, until they break down finally….is it possible? Maybe some.

    • Heather, you are not alone in feeling what you are feeling, and the way you describe it, you are in a very difficult environment. I am so happy that my blog post is helpful to you and I urge you to keep building up a community of people around you who are supportive of your HEALTH and HAPPINESS and NOT your dress size. Warmly, Dr. Deah

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