My Other, My Selfy

No this isn’t a tribute to Nancy Friday’s best seller, My Mother Myself, although at the time that book came out it was a ground breaking read for women everywhere!  This is about a disturbing new app that is now available on Apple that I would like to call your attention to and perhaps convince you to join me in letting the developer know why this is not such an app-ealing idea.

The new app is advertised as SkinneePix and I am disappointed to report the developer goes by the name, PrettySmartWomen LLC.  It would be my hope that any “pretty smart women” would be fine having their selfy look like they look, but clearly my opinion is in the minority.  Here is how the app is advertised,

“SkinneePix helps you edit your Selfies to look 5, 10 or 15 lbs. skinnier in two quick clicks on your iPhone. It’s easy. It’s simple. It’s fun. Share them with your friends immediately.SkinneePix makes your pictures look thinner. SkinneePix makes your photos look good and helps you feel good. It’s not complicated. No one needs to know. It’s our little secret.”

…until they see you in person!!!!  Ok, I have read that description a zillion times and even now, as I was typing it into this blog post, I felt as angry as I did when I first read about it in a newsletter from The Child Mind Institute.  The Child Mind Institute does a great deal of research and reporting on…wait for it…big leap here…minds of children…fancy that!  But seriously, I don’t usually see much in their newsletters related to body image issues.  So when I saw the headline, “An App for Skinnier Selfies” on April 8, 2014 by Rachel Ehmke, I clicked on it immediately. Ms Ehmke did a stellar job denouncing the app and connecting the dots of how an app like this only increases the difficulty of youth being comfortable in their bodies especially if it doesn’t conform to the narrow standard of beauty being touted by our culture. She also points out, that at least for now, the app only works on faces.  It is not meant to be a full body photo liposuction deception device.  But with bathing suit season just around the bend, my hunch is that’s not too far aweigh.

Selfies…I am a newcomer to the world of selfies.  Before Christmas, 2013, I had never even heard the term.  That changed when I joined Marilyn Wann, author of

Marilyn Wann's Yay Scale

Marilyn Wann’s Yay Scale

Fatso? and creator of the Yay Scale, and other activists in San Francisco to  protest a store window with a super sized Santa dressed up as Santa the Hutt warning

My Willendorf Selfie!

My Willendorf Selfie!

people to resist the urge to overindulge during the holiday season.  Marilyn set up a Willendorf Selfy Station, and I quickly grasped that a selfie is when someone uses their smart phone, camera, or tablet to take a picture of themselves to document an important moment and then shares it via social media.  I could see that there were many attitudes behind the act of taking a selfy ranging from playful to political, but in all cases, I assumed, the point behind it was documenting your participation in a real life event either alone or with others. Why then, would it be necessary to skinny down your selfy?  Wouldn’t that make it a NOT my selfy?  And they aren’t talking about a fun distortion opportunity…like a fun house mirror app

Funny Distortion

Funny Distortion

where you can make yourself look super skinny, super fat, super wiggly…they are talking about one thing and one thing only and that is….well…

                                                          “our little secret!”

On computer dating sites, people forage through their photos to choose a picture that will be enticing enough to set up first dates but realistic enough so that when you meet face to face the first thing your prospective new boy/girlfriend doesn’t find out about you is that you are a liar and a cheat.

Hence a certain amount of honesty is expected when you post a photo on your “i-date” profile page.  So what is really the point of the Skinniepix?  One of my fears is that it is a fantasy place holder…a future picture for girls who are convinced that if they just keep restricting their food long enough, they will, any day now, look like their Skinniepix avatar…and then they can go out in public looking as good as their photo.  How can this be beneficial?

If you go to the Skinniepix site you will see that the photos of “users” are not young girls.  I am making the prediction that if confronted with why the Skinniepix could be contraindicated for girls developing a positive self-image, the company would reply with reassurance that this app isn’t so young girls can hate themselves and strive to be thinner.  But when you look at the demographics of people who take selfies, the largest group is girls aged 12-21.  Ehmke nails it when she explains one of the down sides of this app,

“…Which is too bad because when everyone looks fifteen pounds lighter online—or feels like they should—it’s going to make it even harder for girls to feel good about who they really are.”

I know this is a free country.  Free speech. Freedom of choice…just because Skinniepix are out there doesn’t mean someone has to buy it.  But I also think that developers need to be shown some of the negative repercussions of their apps and take responsibility for how they may be detrimental.  It may or may not change anything, but I felt a tad less homicidal after I wrote a letter.  If I hear back from the developer, I will let you know!  And if you decide to send a letter, please let us know via the comment section on this post.  If you think I am over-reacting, I would love to hear from you as well.  Here are ways to contact Pretty Smart Women.

Pretty Smart Women LLC
P.O. Box 13641
Phoenix, Arizona 85002
PrettySmartwomen@gmail.com

Til next time!
Dr. Deah

P.S. I want to thank all of you for coming to the book signing of The Calmanac at Laurel Bookstore!  If you have a bookstore near you that you think would want a body positive book reading event, please let me know!  Until then here are the indie bookstores where you can buy The Calmanac:

Laurel Bookstore- Oakland 4100 MacArthur Blvd., A Great Good Place for Books-Oakland 6120 La Salle Avenue, Skylight books- Los Angeles 1818 North Vermont Street, Books Inc- San Francisco 3515 California Street, Books Inc- Alameda 1344 Park Street, Books Inc.-Berkeley 1760 4th Street, Book Passage- Corte Madera 51 Tamal Vista, Lewins Books-Berkeley 2644 Ashby Ave.

It is also available on line at drdeah.com,  FFF, MOMTL, Amazon, and Barnes &Noble,

Til Next Time!

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11. April 2014 by Dr. Deah
Categories: Body Acceptance, Body Image, Body Positivity, Dr. Deah, Dr. Deah's Calmanac, Size Acceptance, Social Media and Weight Stigma, Weight Stigma | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 9 comments

D-licious D-lightful D-lovely Cross posted from my blog on FierceFatties.com

Back in the 60s we had “Be-Ins “or “Love-Ins,” when people would gather in the same place and meditate on love and peace. Sometimes LSD was involved, sometimes sex and nudity, most of the time music was definitely a factor. But no matter what form they took, the “prime directive” was to raise awareness about the need for peace, unity, and acceptance of diversity.

Be-In
Allen Ginsberg chanting mantras at the first Human Be-In.

In thinking back, it amazes me how massive these events were considering we had no social media to help spread the word and using mainstream media to organize was out of the question.  Yet somehow word got around and there we would be feeling strong, powerful, and most importantly, catalysts for change.

Human Be-In

Today… we have flash mobs. 

I am a relative newcomer to flash mobs. I recently went to my first mob when I heard about a hot flash mob for peri-menopausal and menopausal women from Ragen Chastain and Jeanette DePatie via Facebook. The word spread via social media, I learned the dance steps from a video posted on Facebook, found the staging area using the GPS on my iPhone, and tweeted about it during and afterward. The energy was infectious and inspirational. And yes, a part of me felt nostalgic  and wondered how much more awesome the Be-Ins could have been if we had had all of this technology to connect us!

Now there is a new flash mobs in the works and in the name of bashing the stereotype that some of us old hippies are resistant to change and reluctant to embrace this new world of Tweets, Tumblrs, LinkedIns, and Instagrams, I am using this blog to help spread the word!  After all, one of our anthems warned the generation before us that they had better.

Come mothers and fathers
Throughout the land
And don’t criticize
What you can’t understand
Your sons and your daughters
Are beyond your command
Your old road is rapidly agin’
Please get out of the new one if you can’t lend your hand
For the times they are a-changin’

So in the spirit of Change, not wanting to be a hypocrite, and all the goodness that can come from combining the wisdom of age with the knowledge of youth, I contacted Juicy D. Light after I read this message on my FatStudies Listserve:

Burlesque performer Juicy D. Light (head of the Rubenesque Burlesque troupe in Oakland) is putting together a FAT FLASH MOB to dance to Pharrell Williams’ “Happy” in May. She is holding regular classes in Oakland for those who are local, and also offering videos for those who want to coordinate mobs in other cities. There are ways to adapt the choreography for many levels of ability, including those who would prefer or need to remain seated.

Information is here: Please consider joining, whether you’re local or distant. She would love to have fat flash mobs all over to spread the message of being HAPPY with your fat body!

I thought it would be cool to interview Juicy, find out more about the fat flash mob taking place on May 3, and get the word out ASAP so we could let as many people as possible know about the event. Here is what Juicy had to say, and I for one, found her answers to be truly d-lightful!

Dr. Deah: Could you please tell us a bit about what burlesque is and how you got involved with Rubenesque Burlesque?

Rubenesque Burlesque
Rubenesque Burlesque Photo copyright of Johnny Crash.

Juicy: Burlesque is the art of the tease. It can be just pretty or political or poignant. This art form can tease and titillate or it can educate. There’s all kinds of burlesque at this point. Before there was just classic, evening gowns, gloves, boas, feather fans, lots of bling; but now there’s boylesque, queerlesque, nerdlesque, sadlesque, all kinds of things you can do while taking your clothes off. I got involved when Heather MacAllister came to town. She taught a burlesque class and after the class she asked me to join her troupe.

D: How do you see Rubenesque Burlesque intersecting with the Fat Acceptance movement?

J: Rubenesque Burlesque shows that fat women, in particular, are beautiful, sexy, in demand, worthy, active, healthy, etc., which is an uncommon thought. We work hard, we dance hard. People see us and sometimes change their minds. Sometimes they make an adjustment to the stereotypes they hold so close. Sometimes they are even able to love themselves a little more.

D: What was one event, book, person, or any other catalyst that first opened your eyes to the Fat Acceptance movement?

J: Chaya Gordon. She taught a class called AbunDance at the Women’s Building in San Francisco. She was a fat dancer. She is the one that gave me my body back.She was the first one that let me know that I was ok AND fat. I could still move my body joyfully, I could still dance.From there, I started to meet others, learn about and understand this thing called Fat Acceptance.

D: What do you tell people who argue that burlesque is contradictory to the women’s movement because it sexualizes or objectifies bodies?

J: This is always an interesting question to me. For me, feminism is about choice. We are all sexual beings. Burlesque is what I like to call consensual objectification. I am dancing before you expecting to be objectified and sexualized on MY terms. It’s also a little different for fat women. It’s often assumed that no one finds us attractive, sexually attractive or sexually confident. The pendulum needs to swing far the other way to find the balance. This is our choice.

D: What is one piece of advice you would give to someone who is struggling with Body Acceptance?

J: I would ask them how do they really feel. Inside. Take inventory. Do they hate themselves because they organically feel bad or is it they’ve been taught to hate themselves for so long. I realized a while ago that I was taught to hate myself and my fat body. As a little, fat kid on the playground, I played as hard as everyone else, was a good little athlete (always chosen in the top three; never, ever chosen last), I ran, I jumped, I played!! It was over time the hate and the shame became internalized. It was never organic. I would imagine it’s the same for many. We just have to reclaim the happiness most of us had. It’s hard work, but well worth it

D: So true that body hate is learned. None of us are born hating our bodies! I recently heard that you were organizing a fat flash mob. What gave you the idea to do this and what do you hope it will accomplish?

J: YES!! It’s happening on May 3, 12 pm PST, 2 pm CST, 3 pm EST. It’s one of my New Year’s resolutions actually. And when I heard the song, “Happy” by Pharrell, that just kind of clinched it.  It’s more for those that participate than those watching, although I sincerely hope those watching will be positively affected as well. I want people of all body types to be out in the sun, dancing out loud, enjoying their bodies moving! Together, happily! Without hate or shame.

D: If someone wants to get involved with the fat flash mob, what do they need to do?

Juicy
Juicy D’Light.

J: The first step is to email me at ms.juicydlight at gmail dot com. I would love to have organizer’s all over the place!

I don’t know about anyone else, but I for one am psyched about this event on so many levels. The one that feels the most precious to me, however, is knowing that despite what title, label, or name we attach to it, the “prime directive” is still alive and there is a thriving community of people out in the world using creativity, artistic expression, and togetherness to continue the tradition of raising awareness about the need for peace, unity, and acceptance of diversity.

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07. April 2014 by Dr. Deah
Categories: Blogging, Body Acceptance, Body Image, Body Positivity, Dr. Deah, NAAFA, Size Acceptance, Weight Stigma | Tags: , , , , , , , , , | 1 comment

Hijacked!!

You are perfect unique and beautiful BUT you are fat and have zits so CHANGE!

TRIGGER WARNING:  Talk and videos about dieting and perfection.

If there is one thing that really irks me it is when a product that is dependent on selling me a message of self-dissatisfaction in order to then sell me their product to fix my newly acquired dissatisfaction, uses a self-acceptance message to sell me that product!!!  Okay…that was NOT an easy sentence to read…so let me break it down by offering two recent examples.

In a recent article in The New York Times, there was a story about a new ad campaign for acne cream.  The title of the article, Clean & Clear Videos Dare Not Speak Blemish’s Name, goes on to describe their new sales approach called, See the Real Me, which capitalizes on using the theme of building confidence in teenage girls.  For some reason, the “I can be different and happy with being different” credo that the girls in the See the Real Me ads seem to be professing…does not generalize to their skin.  It is a double message of the most egregious kind.   At the same time they are emphasizing the importance of feeling good about yourself and embracing your uniqueness, they are still issuing the ultimate warning that despite how incredible you may be in so many ways you are still going to be judged if you have a zit on your otherwise wonderful, unique, brilliant, smart, and accomplished self.

“I feel like if I have a zit, no one’s really having a conversation with me, they’re having a conversation with my zit,” an animated teenager says as one spot opens. “I know that they’re looking at it,” says another, before others continue the theme: “Wow, look at that pimple.” “I’m like, hello, I’m right here.” “When I have clear skin, I feel like everybody can see the real me.”

AAAARRRGGGHHH!  This burns me up!  Having a zit IS the real you!!!!!  If someone is obsessing over a pimple on your face, well I hate to be the first one to say this, but they need to get a life.  I mean what additional evidence do you need to see that they are clearly superficial brainwashed people who have been watching way too many ads for how horrific pimples are?! Please, don’t misunderstand me.  I’m not saying it is healthy to completely ignore acne and not take steps to clean your face and prevent infection and scarring if possible; but the reasons given in these ads are never about health or appropriate hygiene.  Fact is, they are ALWAYS about whether or not we are attractive.  Next to fat, zits seem to be the runner up for reasons to lock yourself up in your house and never show yourself in public until you are perfect…I mean look at all the havoc you are causing?  Look at the grief you are inflicting on others who are forced to look at your fat pimply face?!

Example 2: Weight Watchers® is no newbie at taking the concepts of Health at Every Size® and Diets Don’t Work and weaving them into their recruitment ads for joining Weight Watchers.  They are after all, NOT A DIET but a LIFESTYLE.  Yup, a lifestyle that consists of eating 1200 calories or less a day carefully disguised in calling them points instead of calories. But a new Weight Watchers ad featuring Jessica Simpson is doing an exceptionally effective job hijacking the body-love, body positivity, body acceptance (or whatever you want to call it) message  into her sales pitch for Weight Watchers.

At first, as I watched the ad, I felt myself getting very excited by hearing someone, not rail thin, speaking my language.  No, I wasn’t thrilled by how she had to seductively pose, flaunt, and shimmy her way through the ad in her little black dress. I did, however, find it seductive in other ways.  I especially resonated with the body appreciation exhibited towards her body as having given birth to her children.  (It reminded me of a blog post I wrote about my pregnancy.) Until I realized that what Ms. Simpson was really saying was she could love her body as it is now because she knows she is on her way to a thinner better body by  using Weight Watchers.  She shifts into full blown sales mode when she tells us how simple it was to get a quick jump start on losing weight with their special jump start program.  Right Jessica…you love and adore your miraculous body so much that you needed the fastest, quickest, most expedient way to change it.

EPIC FOUL!  EPIC FAIL!   I  hate it when companies hijack Health at Every Size and/or self-acceptance messages in order to profit by selling products that are completely antithetical to the very foundations of those philosophies! Remember this quote by John Berger?

                

“The spectator-buyer is meant to envy herself as she will become if she buys the product.  She is meant to imagine herself       transformed by the product into an object of envy for others, an envy which will then justify her loving herself.  One could put this another way:  the publicity image steals her love of herself as she is, and offers it back to her for the price of the product.”

But what is worse?  Sometimes I honestly don’t know.  Is it better to:

  • Get exposure to body positive messages in body hate ads that may put you on a new path that you may not have been aware of without the ad?

Or

  • Keep those ads true to the product they are selling by telling you that you are fat, you have zits, you are disgusting and miserable and now PLEASE do all of us a favor, buy our product, and go change!

 

What do you think?  I really want to know!

Calmanac News!!!

Amy S. with The Calmanac at Books Inc. in Alameda

Amy S. with The Calmanac at Books Inc. in Alameda

I am so excited to announce that my book, Dr. Deah’s Calmanac, is now available in six bookstores in California!  The latest addition will be in Oakland at: A Great Good Place for Books 6120 La Salle Avenue

 

The other bookstores are:

Skylight books- Los Angeles 1818 North Vermont Street
Books Inc- San Francisco 3515 California Street
Books Inc- Alameda 1344 Park Street
Book Passage- Corte Madera 51 Tamal Vista
Laurel Bookstore- Oakland 4100 MacArthur Blvd.
I am also speaking and signing my books at the following locations:

March 23, 2014, 4:00 p.m. I will be reading from The Calmanac at Insalata’s.  120 Sir Francis Drake Blvd, San Rafael, California 94960. (415) 457-7700.

April 3-7, 2014, I will be presenting at the American Society of Group Psychotherapists and Psychodramatists’ (ASGPP) annual conference in Oakland, CA. I will be signing copies of The Calmanac on Saturday at 6:30 p.m. and presenting on Sunday at 1:15-2:45 on B.E.D. and Expressive Arts Therapy.  CLICK HERE for more information.

April 9, 2014.  I will be reading from and signing copies of Dr. Deah’s Calmanac at Laurel Bookstore, 4100 MacArthur Blvd. Oakland, CA. 94619 (510) 531-2073 at 7:00 p.m.  My first bookstore appearance for The Calmanac hope to see you there! CLICK HERE for more information.

If you want to keep up with my speaking engagements and book signings, go to the calendar page on my website.

                                                                                  

Curious about what others think of The Calmanac?
Rebecca Weinstein, author of Fat Sex, recently reviewed The Calmanac. Here is what she wrote!

Til Next Time!

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Dr. Deah

15. March 2014 by Dr. Deah
Categories: Body Acceptance, Body Image, Body Positivity, diets, Dr. Deah, Dr. Deah's Calmanac, End Fat Talk, HAES®, Size Acceptance, Weight, Weight Stigma | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 comments

That Was the Week that Was! NEDA Week: Day 7

Today is the last day of National Eating Disorders Awareness Week 2014 and it has been an eye opening week for me. I don’t have any hard stats to back this up, but it feels as if this year’s week had a broader reach and more involvement than in recent years. Sometimes I get cynical about these awareness weeks. After all isn’t everyday an opportunity for awareness? Why limit it to one week? But I also see how dedicating time to be mindful of something is a good thing. It’s easy to become complacent about ED, especially when you are working in the field. I don’t think I am the only one who gets so involved in my current case-load and all of the demands of life that there is little time to keep up with the latest research and trends that are continually taking place. So when a week comes around that calls for me to focus on one thing, it is an invitation to upgrade my skills, increase my understanding, and learn.

One of the areas that got my attention this week were the voices in the ED community that wanted it to be understood that media pressure and societal standards of beauty do NOT cause an eating disorder. There were videos, articles, blog posts all over the web sending out that message loud and sometimes clear…(sometimes it was confusing to me I have to admit).   This particular video grabbed my attention and really caused me to think. But then the same website posted this article which seemed a bit contradictory.  The combination of the two, however, caused me to re-examine my beliefs and understandings about the topic; and what I came away with was this:

True: You should not confuse correlation with causation.
True: Media images do not create a mental illness.
True: Media images can exacerbate a predisposition to a mental illness.
True: We still need to work together to stop the over objectification of bodies in the media.
True: We need to help each person define their own standards of self-worth that are not attached to their weight.
True: We need to continue to teach each other about ways to heal and prevent eating disorders.

So let’s keep the conversation going even though the week is over and we will all go back to our busy lives and focus on the next important cause…except for those suffering with an eating disorder.  For them every week is eating disorders awareness week.  And we all have a great deal of work left to do.

In recognition of NEDA Week, order Dr. Deah’s Calmanac and receive a free bumper sticker or magnet!  Purchase the book from my website or in any of the  following California bookstores:

Skylight books- Los Angeles 1818 North Vermont
Books Inc- San Francisco 3515 California Street
Books Inc- Alameda 1344 Park Street
Book Passages- Corte Madera 51 Tamal Vista  (after March 1st) but yes I will still send you your free gift!
Laurel Bookstore- Oakland 4100 MacArthur
then email me @ drdeah@drdeah.com or Tweet me @dr_deah with your address and a selfie of you with The Calmanac at the bookstore, and I will send you your free gift!
Til Next Time!

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01. March 2014 by Dr. Deah
Categories: Body Image, Dr. Deah's Calmanac, Eating disorders, Fashion, Size Acceptance, Weight Stigma | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , | 1 comment

Siblings: NEDA Week Day 6

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The connection between siblings is one of the most unique relationships that many of us will experience in our lifetime.  Whether it is rooted in classic sibling rivalry, merged into one identity, or somewhere in between, the bond we have with our siblings is unlike any bond we have with anyone else.  When it comes to body image, it is fascinating to see how siblings from the same family can have either the same challenges with their body satisfaction or be on opposite ends of the spectrum.  When it comes to eating disorders, we also see similarities and disparities among siblings; which begs for additional research into the genetic predisposition for developing an e.d. and close examination of the nature nurture influences on self-image.

Today is day 6 of NEDA Week and the NEDA forum will be focusing on Siblings from 9-10pm EST/6-7m PST

NEDAwareness Week Forum Chats:

“Are you a parent, sibling, partner or spouse supporting a loved one with an eating disorder? Are you a male struggling to find other males to talk to about your experience? This NEDAwareness Week (February 23 – March 1, 2014), you can join in the conversation on the NEDA Forums during our “live chat” times.”

CLICK HERE to find out more about the NEDA forum.

This week, I will be pinning about eating disorders on the WEGO Health ‘s Women’s Health board and on my Cultivate a Positive Body Image board.  If you have any resources to add please let me know!

And in recognition of NEDA Week, order Dr. Deah’s Calmanac and receive a free bumper sticker or magnet!  Purchase the book from my website or in any of the  following California bookstores:

Skylight books- Los Angeles 1818 North Vermont
Books Inc- San Francisco 3515 California Street
Books Inc- Alameda 1344 Park Street
Book Passages- Corte Madera 51 Tamal Vista  (after March 1st) but yes I will still send you your free gift!
Laurel Bookstore- Oakland 4100 MacArthur
then email me @ drdeah@drdeah.com or Tweet me @dr_deah with your address and a selfie of you with The Calmanac at the bookstore, and I will send you your free gift!
Til Next Time!

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28. February 2014 by Dr. Deah
Categories: BEDA, Body Acceptance, Body Image, Dr. Deah, Eating disorders, NEDA | Tags: , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

What We Can Do: Day 5 NEDA Week

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Despite the well known saying, talk is NOT cheap,  Advertisers spend billions of dollars each year on ads telling us and selling us body hate messages.  And unless we unplug completely and live in a Samadhi Tank, we can not avoid the media completely.  And yes, it can be overwhelming and very seductive.  But try to remember that even though:

We can not always shield ourselves from seeing media images that promote weight stigma.

We can not always shield ourselves from hearing media messages that promote weight stigma.

We CAN always stop ourselves from speaking negatively about our and other people’s bodies.  Try to eliminate negative body talk from your repertoire.  Your self acceptance will grow!  Proud to be Me has a stop body snarking campaign. CLICK HERE for more information about how to spread the word of body positivity.

There is also a facebook page National Eating Disorders Collaboration that is focusing on ending negative body talk. CLICK HERE for the link!

This week, I will be pinning about eating disorders on the WEGO Health ‘s Women’s Health board and on my Cultivate a Positive Body Image board.  If you have any resources to add please let me know!

And in recognition of NEDA Week, order Dr. Deah’s Calmanac and receive a free bumper sticker or magnet!  Purchase the book from my website or in any of the  following California bookstores:

Skylight books- Los Angeles 1818 North Vermont
Books Inc- San Francisco 3515 California Street
Books Inc- Alameda 1344 Park Street
Book Passages- Corte Madera 51 Tamal Vista  (after March 1st) but yes I will still send you your free gift!
Laurel Bookstore- Oakland 4100 MacArthur
then email me @ drdeah@drdeah.com or Tweet me @dr_deah with your address and a selfie of you with The Calmanac at the bookstore, and I will send you your free gift!
Til Next Time!

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27. February 2014 by Dr. Deah
Categories: BEDA, Binge Eating, Body Acceptance, Body Image, Dr. Deah's Calmanac, Eating disorders, Men and Eating Disorders, NEDA, Size Acceptance | Tags: , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

NEDA Week: Day 4: Dr. Who?

Dr. Drew's Daughter, Paulina Pinsky

I used to watch the show Dr. Who religiously!  I LOVED it.  And I just returned from presenting at the Popular Culture Association Regional Conference in New Mexico on Healthism and Weight Stigma where they had three hour seminars on Dr. Who!!!  But for those of you who don’t know who Dr. Who is…that is how I felt this morning when a friend of mine sent me a link to an article about Dr. Drew’s daughter being a body positive activist.

Dr. Who?

Dr. Drew Pinsky.

Who knew?

Honest to Betsy (Hi Betsy!  She’s my friend’s sister!) I had never heard of Dr. Drew.  But I loved the article about Paulina Pinsky opening up about her eating disorder and finding her way to body positivity.  I am never “happy” to hear that anyone has or is struggling with an eating disorder, but when someone comes out to the world with a body positive message who has the media’s ear, it is good for all of the young girls and boys who read the e-zines like Frisky etal.  I can scream about body love all I want but the truth is, Dr. Drew’s name has juuuuust a tad more clout than Dr. Deah and if Paulina’s fame means one less article about Renee Zellweger and how awesome she looks since she dropped her Bridgette Jones body and one more article about size acceptance and eating disorder awareness…well that is just a good day in my book.

Dr. Drew's Daughter, Paulina Pinsky

Dr. Drew’s Daughter, Paulina Pinsky

 

Here is a link to the article if you want to check it out, but the photo accompanying the article…says it all.

This week, I will be pinning about eating disorders on the WEGO Health ‘s Women’s Health board and on my Cultivate a Positive Body Image board.  If you have any resources to add please let me know!

And in recognition of NEDA Week, order Dr. Deah’s Calmanac and receive a free bumper sticker or magnet!  Purchase the book from my website or in any of the  following California bookstores:

Skylight books- Los Angeles 1818 North Vermont
Books Inc- San Francisco 3515 California Street
Books Inc- Alameda 1344 Park Street
Book Passages- Corte Madera 51 Tamal Vista  (after March 1st) but yes I will still send you your free gift!
Laurel Bookstore- Oakland 4100 MacArthur
then email me @ drdeah@drdeah.com or Tweet me @dr_deah with your address and a selfie of you with The Calmanac at the bookstore, and I will send you your free gift!
Til Next Time!
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26. February 2014 by Dr. Deah
Categories: BEDA, Binge Eating, Body Acceptance, Body Image, Dr. Deah, Eating disorders, NEDA, Size Acceptance | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Day 3 NEDA Week: Count Your Blah Blahssings Baby!!

Count you Blahssings Baby!
Count you Blahssings Baby!

Count you Blahssings Baby!

If you are like most people, you thrive on positive reinforcement and disintegrate just a bit each time you are shamed or told you are wrong. So why do we give our power over to negative reinforcements like scales, diet companies, and the fashion industry which profit from telling us that we are never good enough?  Our weight is not a measure of our success or self worth. Find a new reinforcing barometer! Count good deeds, not calories. Count friends, not pounds. Count your blessings not your reps. Count on yourself NOT Jenny or Jillian.

Did you know that The National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) hosts live Google Hangouts with eating disorders experts on a wide variety of topics? These Hangouts are organized through the NEDA Google+ Page, but all past Hangouts are archived there as well!

The Next Google Hangout will be:  “Behind the Lens”: The Fashion Industry, Beauty Ideals and Eating Disorders, Thursday, February 27, 2014 @ 3pm ET/ 12pm PT

In recognition of NEDAwareness Week 2014, the National Eating Disorders Association has teamed up with the Model Alliance to present a live Google Hangout with NEDA Ambassador, Model Alliance Advisory Board member, model, activist, and author Carré Otis and model and activist Brittany Mason. Panelists will explore the connection between fashion industry beauty ideals, the pressures consumers face to satisfy these unrealistic expectations and how these contribute to the onset of eating disorders & body image issues. Our panelists will also discuss the changes that are happening within the fashion industry to better protect working models’ health and rights, as well as exploring what consumers can do to promote positive change.

This week, I will be pinning about eating disorders on the WEGO Health ‘s Women’s Health board and on my Cultivate a Positive Body Image board.  If you have any resources to add please let me know!

And in recognition of NEDA Week, order Dr. Deah’s Calmanac and receive a free bumper sticker or magnet!  Purchase the book from my website or in any of the  following California bookstores:

Skylight books- Los Angeles 1818 North Vermont
Books Inc- San Francisco 3515 California Street
Books Inc- Alameda 1344 Park Street
Book Passages- Corte Madera 51 Tamal Vista  (after March 1st) but yes I will still send you your free gift!
Laurel Bookstore- Oakland 4100 MacArthur
then email me @ drdeah@drdeah.com or Tweet me @dr_deah with your address and a selfie of you with The Calmanac at the bookstore, and I will send you your free gift!
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25. February 2014 by Dr. Deah
Categories: BEDA, Binge Eating, Body Acceptance, Body Image, diets, Dr. Deah, Dr. Deah's Calmanac, Eating disorders, Fashion, Men and Eating Disorders, NEDA, Weight | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Day Two of NEDA Week: I Had no Idea!

NEDAwareness Week

Eating disorders are serious illnesses, not lifestyle choices.

What does an E. D. look like?

“Eating disorders are complex illnesses that arise from a combination of long-standing behavioral, emotional, psychological, interpersonal, biological and social factors. As our natural body size and shape is largely determined by genetics, fighting our natural size and shape can lead to unhealthy dieting practices, poor body image and decreased self-esteem. Body dissatisfaction and thin ideal internalization are both significant risk factors for the development of eating disorder behaviors like restricting and binge eating.” NEDA.org

The only sure, certain, definite fact you can ascertain from looking at a person’s size, is that they are that size.  You can not assume anything about their health, why they are the size they are, what they do or don’t do to be that size, or whether or not they are satisfied with their size.  Please do not make assumptions about connecting body weight/size with an eating disorder, there are so many other factors involved.

To learn more about what an Eating Disorder may or may not “look like” please visit http://nedawareness.org/quiz

The power is in your hands to determine how YOU feel about your body. Take your power back and define your own standards.

This week, I will be pinning about eating disorders on the WEGO Health ‘s Women’s Health board and on my Cultivate a Positive Body Image board.  If you have any resources to add please let me know!

And in recognition of NEDA Week, order Dr. Deah’s Calmanac and receive a free bumper sticker or magnet!  Purchase the book from my website or in any of the  following California bookstores:

Skylight books- Los Angeles 1818 North Vermont
Books Inc- San Francisco 3515 California Street
Books Inc- Alameda 1344 Park Street
Book Passages- Corte Madera 51 Tamal Vista  (after March 1st) but yes I will still send you your free gift!
Laurel Bookstore- Oakland 4100 MacArthur
then email me @ drdeah@drdeah.com or Tweet me @dr_deah with your address and a selfie of you with The Calmanac at the bookstore, and I will send you your free gift!Til Next Time!Dr. Deah

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24. February 2014 by Dr. Deah
Categories: BEDA, Binge Eating, Body Acceptance, Body Image, diets, Dr. Deah, Dr. Deah's Calmanac, Eating disorders, NEDA, Size Acceptance, Weight | Tags: , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

I Had No Idea: A Blogette

 

NEDAwareness Week

NEDAwareness Week

I just returned from presenting at the Popular Culture Association Conference in Albuquerque, New Mexico.  I also had the honor to act as substitute chair for Dr. Susan Koppleman, of the Fat Studies track, and as soon as I get settled back into my routine and catch up, I will be writing about the amazing work being done in Fat Studies by people all over the country and Canada.  But today I just wanted to dash off a quick blogette, because today is day 1 of National Eating Disorders Awareness Week.  But please please please remember that for those of us with an eating disorder or our friends, colleagues, or family members with eating disorders, EVERY WEEK is eating disorders awareness week.

One week to call attention to this devastating disorder is better than nothing but still inadequate.  If we devoted half of the resources, time, and energy to educating people about eating disorders that we spend on selling people diet products, well…actually, if we did that, there would be fewer people with an eating disorder…and a great many more informed people! That isn’t about to happen any time soon, unfortunately, so until then we need to do our best to maintain our focus and offer support all year long.

Sometimes awareness is not enough without information about what to do with the awareness.  We have all heard the expression, “A little knowledge is a dangerous thing.”  In the case of educating people about eating disorders, this can be true.  So I urge folks to go beyond the talking points, catch phrases, and advertising tie-ins and really find out the facts about eating disorders.  Here are some sources.

NEDA, BEDA, ANAD, EDRS, EDRC, EDIG, IAEDP, NAMED, MGEDT, Mental Fitness 

Boys and Men Get Eating Disorders Also!

Boys and Men Get Eating Disorders Also!

 

This week, I will be pinning about eating disorders on the WEGO Health ‘s Women’s Health board and on my Cultivate a Positive Body Image board.  If you have any resources to add please let me know!

And in recognition of NEDA Week, order Dr. Deah’s Calmanac and receive a free bumper sticker or magnet!  Purchase the book from my website or in any of the  following California bookstores:

Skylight books- Los Angeles 1818 North Vermont
Books Inc- San Francisco 3515 California Street
Books Inc- Alameda 1344 Park Street
Book Passages- Corte Madera 51 Tamal Vista  (after March 1st)
Laurel Bookstore- Oakland 4100 MacArthur
then email me @ drdeah@drdeah.com or Tweet me @dr_deah with your address and a selfie of you with The Calmanac at the bookstore, and I will send you your free gift!

Til Next Time!

Dr. Deah

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23. February 2014 by Dr. Deah
Categories: BEDA, Body Acceptance, Body Image, diets, Dr. Deah, Dr. Deah's Calmanac, Eating disorders, EDRC, Men and Eating Disorders, NEDA | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

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